Discipline without Disrespecting: 8 Tips to Taming Your Muslim Child’s Temper
MashaAllah Grandma Jeddah has given permission for her readers to put her free ebook 8 Tips to Taming Your Muslim Child’s Temper onto their own blogs as a download so I don’t need to say a lot about the book because you can read it for yourself immediately when you you download it here: Grandma Jeddah’s 8 Tips for Taming Temper PDF.
I found the book very useful mashaAllah. Within the 8 tips there are reminders about the characteristics of Muslim parenting that parents need to take ownership of and how to nurture them, numerous tools for dealing with challenging behaviour that are explained through scenarios, and overall a very compassionate, grounded, and human approach to responding – not reacting – to the human beings in our care.
Grandma Jeddah often examples children with special needs and I love that – not only does her inclusiveness make her ebook useful for Muslim parents with children on every spectrum, but it reinforces her message that it is the parents who need to instigate changes, not the children: all children have needs that we are required to adapt to. Her second tip is Determine Your Child’s Triggers – the unique things that set a child’s challenging behaviour in motion. As she says, “learning how to manage your child’s triggers is an art. As with any skill, practice makes perfect. ”
Please do read and share this book with other Muslim parents and grandparents, whether they have been newly honoured with their role and will appreciate the book to set them on the right path, or they are seasoned child-carers who will appreciate Grandma Jeddah’s non-judgemental encouragement to keep striving to improve their methods for the sake of pleasing Allah.
I would add one tip to Grandma Jeddah’s list:
Take Time Out
Ensure that you make space for ten minutes everyday when you are not on call to anyone and you can choose to do something for yourself that you will enjoy or will enjoy having accomplished – on some days you may choose an uninterrupted opportunity to clean, on others you may want a peaceful cup of tea outdoors.
Also ensure you make space for ten minutes everyday to connect with your spouse, perhaps taking five minutes each to talk about whatever you want to tell the other.
This extra tip of mine could fall within Grandm Jeddah’s first tip which is, Be A Good Example.
I’ve only told you two of her tips I know, but the book is right here: Grandma Jeddah’s 8 Tips for Taming Temper PDF
So what are you waiting for?
Learning how to manage your child’s triggers is an art. As with any skill, practice makes perfect.